Love comes when we least expect it, when we are not looking for it. Try looking at ur r/s with ur partner now. Try to remember how u first met. Was it intended? I bet not. Seeking and hunting for love never brings the right partner. It only creates longing and unhappiness in you. Love is never outside ourselves, It is within us. But don't insist or assume that love come immediately, Perhaps you are not sure of it or maybe you are not developed enough to attract the love you want. Don't settle for anybody just for the sake to have someone. There's no point if being together with no love involve. Set ur criteria, what kind of love do you want, what type of person that suits you and so forth. Have a broad aim of what its gonna be like, and stick with it. Set certain principles and values. At the same time ask yourself what might have distance you away from love. Was it criticism? feelings of unworthiness? bad experiences? unreasonable/unrealistic targets? fear of change and so on. Try to work on those issues as well. Get someone who is capable of helping you in that if you need to. Belief in yourself when love comes. Be loving, open and receptive to love and u'll be lovable.