Learning to cope.

I was reading at this particular entry from someone's blog. In that entry, I could sense the feeling of emotion that was filled with sadness and depression. After I finished reading it, I paused.... Then I tried to capture the picture and share the pain of someone's loss. In fact if I went deeper, I could have seen my tears dropping. Its a tragic thing to happen when we loss someone who is especially close to us. And we need to understand that when such thing takes place, grief occurs and that is a normal response to a painful event. Thing is death is inevitable in our lives. But if we try to resist or deny the reaction, then we'll find it hard to cope with our recovery. In fact, if the loss is to be fully accepted, we must grieve. To eventually find serenity and peace of mind, grief should be respected and allowed full expression.

When one suffer such depression, it is impt for them to know what is happening durin the phase. The self awarness must be there at all time. The issue is not to resist the painful feelings or else it will stuck to feeling depressed. Some result to crying because tears and sorrow help them get through it satisfactorily. Its true crying lift u a little bit although for some crying may be difficult, generally men. They believe crying is a sign of weakness. I find that as flawed. When my grandma passed away, I cried to the extend that I can't cry anymore. Its okay to cry. There is no shame in that. Cryin is a nature, it is a sign of emotion. Crying helps and provides a healthy and beneficial way to express that sorrow and everything else as well. Tears are very cleansing and they literally wash away the sadness.

Its also understood that while someone is grieving, they will inevitably feel very sad and not in any mood to do anything. For example eating, once a pleasure, became excruciating. At the same time, they will find themselves withdrawing from friends, people and the society for awhile. In a sense, withdrawal is actually good. Put it in a positive way, it gives you time to reflect on ur loss and to acknowledge both mentally and emotionally what has happened. At this moment, the mind will be flooded with memories. When they have come to realisation that accepting the loss is the only way, they can decide what they want to do next. Like talkin to a counsellor to enhance their life more effectively or getting back to socialization. It is impt that we need to give room for them to be alone for awhile. When they are ready to talk, they will come over.