Sometimes difficulties in relationship arise bcoz we assume that our feelings for someone are somehow generated by them. We do not recognise that we create our own feelings. If you love someone, it is you doin the loving, not them, if you re angry at someone, you are the one with the anger. One impt way tt you can take is to see ur heart and acknowledge that the love u feel for others comes from u not them. You can start taking responsibility for those feelings and for ur actions, instead of assuming that the other person is somehow making u feel that way. That will be the start of taking control of ur life.