We as human beings have to agree to the term that we can't own others or should I say controlin someone's lives. We don't have the right to do so. Sometimes people just push it too hard believing tt they are doin the right thing while others are being a lil over protective. Many of these people come from tt category.. Mainly youth and young adults. Most ppl may not be aware of it because it seems to be nature for them to react or behave that way. But the fact it is the opposite: nurture - We create this habit. When you lose someone special, you get those unwanted feelings such as anger and frustration because it doesnt seem fair to u. After all, nobody asked you if it was alright for tt person to be taken away from ur life. It is often difficult to accept the fact tt relationship are a benefit of life and not right. This basic lil things are often forgotten which may pay a heavy price in ur life. Giving up the desire to own people who are close to you is not easy because we truly wish we could dictate the outcome of the r/s. However, when u relinquish ur demand for ownership, u will be released from a tremendous burden. It is hard enough in life to manage task for which you are responsible as adult. Don't put urself in the no-win situation of demandin power over the events tt are not within ur control. Instead of tryin to improve or help, it just create a whole new problem. Perhaps, we should start thinking of our behaviour rather than others. Like they always say .." Take care of urself first b4 u can take care of others".