Distancing is a valuable factor in reaching out because it allows us to see ppl in a different light. This is esp the case with respect to anger. Often, when ppl get angry at us over smth regardless impt issues or not, we may be influenced by their action which result to 2 angry confrontation, or maybe we could just step back and personalised n sense their anger. In short, you have 2 options to react, either u retaliate or just pull back. The nx choice is urs on how u want it. But I suggest taking the 2nd option-The best option(pull back). We can't help it when they are already blown over the top. So its best we decide what's nx for us. Anger is nothing but a pointer. It shows us that ppl are afraid, hurt, under great stress, insecure, worried n so forth. And if we react the same way as them, we will fail to see the source of the other person's hostile feelings and behaviour. Very often, people claimed that when they are in anger, they couldnt control themselves. They want to unleash out on something and somebody. Thus, which is why we see abuse, rapes, fights, violence, murderers etc everyday in the paper. The truth is, we create those anger in us. And we can control it. You can't expect to blow up whenever people provoke you, if that is the case, the hostile rate will continuously be shootin up pretty high. In order not to do this, we must first learn to deal with anger in parents, friends, colleagues etc. We have to knw that anger is often coverin smth else, and that they shouldnt seek attack in return. However, we also need to take note to be careful not to give away ppl our power to be enthusiastic, encouraging, hopeful and passionate. The key is our sense of awarness of the situation. If we are able to handle those situation, we are most capable of handling our emotion as well as others.