We tend to believe that the traumas of childhood control our fate and have caused all the problems we are experiencing today as adults. Let's not forget that it is our decision and our character to choose them in the first palce. We take a different point of view. Maybe you were traumatized as a child, maybe you were mistreated and emotionally harmed. If so, you have the reason to be angry or resentful. But every child deserves better- I always believe in that.

However, if u happend to have a bad childhood events that have become the hook upon which to hang your adults problems, you re not going to be able to move forward in life- This is coming from experience. And thus, you wont become that healthy, happy, significant self you want to be. Nor will you have a lasting, satisfying relationship because you tend to look at the darker side of life.

It all comes down to choice- Your choice. Just because you've had a difficult personal history doesnt mandate that you have to be a troubled adult. The trend do not follow throughout, childhood differs from the adult category. If you are dubious abt what I've said, do consider to do some research- especially on developmental Psy or personality theories. You will get a clearer picture. Blaming ur adult depression, anxiety, bad marriage, drug use, sexual problems, abuses, unemployment, self esteem, alcoholic or anger on what happened to you in ur earlier years means that ur struggles of ur past though painful- have been overrated and not being able to cope with it. If you sincerely want to move past the pain and anger ur past engenders, you can no longer lean on it to explain ur problems, whatever they are. You've got to stop giving excuses, blaming urself, wallow in self-pity and start to take responsiblity as a mature adult for ur current choices.