Emotionally needy people don't understand the meaning of space. They mother and smother us with their very presence. Their constant connecting becomes oppressive- if not possessive. A healthy relationship respects serenity. It recognizes the value of a thoughtful silence and a private retreat. Let's face it, There are times in everyone's life when we need to be alone- times when we need to gather out wits and allow our soul to catch up. Healthy people understand this. Part of self giving love means that we provide space, when needed, for the companion of solitude to enter a relationship. Of course, we also know when to return, when to break the silence and rejoin the other person's journey. Sometimes, we tend to forget that we pushed too hard on our self that a single moment w/o them becomes a failure to us. All of us need space for the companion of solitude but, even more, we need to be in relationship. After all, it is this very space and separation provided by a healthy relationship that draws us back to a full appreciation of the relationship.