The kind of attitude people have when initiating a relationship will determine what happens later. And if there is something unspoken, it will usually lead to the suicidal of the relationship. If, for instance, ur partner is holding something back and thinking, "If I show this part of myself, then he/she is going to get scared and run away." Well, be sure u will someday run away. Openness is needed from the beginning so that people what what they are going into. Being very nice, you know, is not always the right way- But being true to urself and ur partner. That way, we understand about each other strength and weakness.