Life is full of hellos and good-byes. In our term, we will say goodbye to cherished people, things and ideas as well. Eventually, we say goodbye to life itself when death is upon us. Learn to say goodbye. As with physical wound, the body has its own schedule for healing. It will tell u when it has healed. Thats the greatest part about ur body. Understanding the process of recovering from an emotional wound is valuable - not necessarily as a technique for accelerating for healing process - but more as an assurance. There are 3 distinct , yet overlapping phases of recovery. And we all go thru each phase no matter what the loss is. The only difference is duration and the intensity of ur feeling. In a minor loss, we can experience all 3 stages in a few minutes or hrs but in major loss, the recovery process can take months or worst even years. Trust me Ive been there b4. It sucks but every1 who live in this world will go thru it 1 way or another. The 1st stage is shock/denial/numbness. Our body and emotions numb themselves to the pain. The mind denies the loss. I know some couldnt accept this kind of thing. But its the fact. we are human afterall. This is how we always behave when such thing happen. The 2nd stage is fear /anger / depression. We are angry at whatever or whoever caused the loss includin the person who left. And we often turn our anger against ourselves and feel guilt over something we did or we did not do.(This cause of blame,either outer or inner part of u, is not always rational). The depression stage of recovery is the sadness often associated with loss. And after what had happened. We fear the pain will never end and that we will never love or be loved again. The last stage is understanding/acceptance/moving on. And frankly speaking, I must say Its the hardest thing for a person to cope with compare to the 1st n 2nd stage. We realize that Life goes on, that loss is part of life, and that our life can and will be complete without presence of what was lost. We also realize by going thru the first 2 stages of recovery, we have learned a great deal about ourselves. If we don't allow ourselves time to heal, some of our ability to experience life may be frozen.